I Don’t Deserve My Wife

Now before I go any further with this entry let me go on record and state that no, I am not in the “dog house”, and no, this isn’t some lame attempt to give my wife “all the honor and all the glory” to get myself out of said “dog house” lol. Although some of what I write here will stem from my own personal experience, this is a general outlook (in the natural and the spiritual) as to why we as husbands don’t “deserve” our wives.

This thought of not “deserving” our wives started with me just thinking about how much my wife does day in and day out. From cooking to cleaning to bills to dealing with me (which is a lot lol). We also have two girls so on top of being a wife to me and everything that comes with that, she also has her responsibilities as a mother. With that said I still want to focus on just the wife aspect because not all of the wives who are reading this blog are mothers. One morning me and my wife were getting ready for work (we also have to get the girls ready, which my wife does most of the time) and as we were about to walk out of the door she hands me my lunch already packed and my cup of coffee already made, sugar, creamer and all. At this moment I thought to myself, “what did I do to deserve her”?

The answer to that question is, NOTHING! We as husbands have done nothing nor can we ever do anything to “deserve” our wives. The reason being is that wives are a gift from God. Every gift that comes from God can’t earned or gained by anything we do but are freely given to us because of his great love for us. God gave me this revelation when I asked that question, “what did I do to deserve her”. Almost immediately the word ‘nothing’ came to mind and it got me thinking, what does the word of God say about our wives? How should we view the women God has given to us in marriage. I came up with a few scriptures I’d like to share here:

“Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭31:10-11‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the LORD.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭18:22‬ ‭NLT‬‬

“Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.””
‭‭Genesis‬ ‭2:18‬ ‭NLT‬‬
These are just a few scriptures of the many on wives, but even these alone showcase how our wives are more precious than rubies here to enrich our lives. How finding her gives us favor from the Lord. And how God saw that we needed a companion and has given us a woman specifically for us. This shows us that God places high value on wives. We as husbands should do the same. When we mistreat our wives, neglect them, or love them less than what they deserve, we disrespect the very gift of God. It’s almost like saying this gift you’ve given me isn’t good enough.  I believe if we start to treat and view our wives the way God intended and cherish them as the precious gift they are, our marriages will significantly be better and God will bless us for loving our wives as Christ loved the church. He will show is favor and he will greatly enrich our lives.

What scriptures do you have that talk about wives, husbands or marriages in general? If you feel differently about what I’ve wrote or you just want to discuss it more please comment below. And don’t forget to Subscribe to this blog by entering your email into subscription box. Yall be blessed!


    • Yea I hope it really encourages men to treat their wives better. And I hope it makes women realize how much value they have as wives. Lol I know who Jaz, and I hope it helps him as a husband and a man of God! 🙂

  1. Great insight Brandon. It takes a true man of God to share such humbling thoughts. Wives let us not forget to uplift our husband verbally, as well. It’s good to show it, but sometimes they want to hear how much you mean to them. Simple words like, that’s a great idea, you are so smart, I really appreciate you or thank you for being mine. We as wives always want to receive, but sometimes we have to give, as well. Ephesians 5:33 says.. Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. A light just went off; maybe it’s hard for most man to love his wife the way the Binle says because he “he must love himself first.” Hmmmmmm

    • Wow, you really did just made a great point. I’ve never thought of it like that. If I don’t love myself or don’t have much love for myself, then how can I love my wife? I can only give her what I have. Thank you so much for this comment, it really did make a light go off lol

  2. Great synopsis Brandon. I agree wives do a lot and support their husbands. My wife has to deal with me and I know I’m a handful. We also have 3 kids under the age of 5. I’m truly blessed.

  3. Wow!!!!! such great words from a young man of God….I enjoyed all of it….I pray all husbands will read this and just know how precious their gifts are…also wives always encourage your husbands and show them the love they deserve….

  4. Very good Brandon! I hope that my influence had something to do with how your wife treats you. Love and appreciation helps to make the connection stronger. The fact that you both do things together; also allows for a balance in which you both can make time for one another. You two are truly blessed and so is your marriage. May God continue to bless you above all that you could even ask or think…

    • Thank you so much…and thank you for commenting. Im sure your influence had a lot to do with it lol. God truly has blessed us and really blessed me with a great wife. You have a wonderful daughter!!! Don’t forget to subscribe if you can mama Kat!!

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